I want you to picture this meetup idea if you can… I’m stood in my friend Marlene’s apartment with my head in the shower and she’s stood behind me massaging my hair and scalp with some cheap shampoo and telling me about the virtues of this thing called chalk that she wants me to try in my hair instead of shampoo. It sounds messy though and I decline politely, telling her that I just want my hair to be clean and that any shampoo will do.
What I’ve just shared with you is a typical meetup I have with my friend Marlene. She’s not rich, and neither am I. But we enjoy our friendship and we help each other out a lot too. The next time I’m at her house, she might be sat on the floor with her back turned to me while I oil her hair and scalp, and plait it (her hair) into the tiny bits that she loves. In an hour or two that it takes to do that, we will catch up with what’s going on in each other’s lives, for example, our kids, crafts, work etc. And before I leave, you can bet anything I will learn something new that will help me to grow as a person.
My point here is that friendships can be maintained without spending a lot of money. It’s the quality of the time spent together that’s important.
I am going to share with you some ways that you can nurture your friendships the frugal way. I’m going to use my own experiences and then you can put your own slant on things. By the way, I hope you’re not thinking that my friends and I are cheapskates! When you realize just how much fun we have and how our bond is strengthened, you will want to try our ideas too.
Just hang out
When I was growing up, it was a pleasure to just walk over to my friends’ houses or have them come over to mine. So what did we do? We just hung out together. Our sessions were just full of fun and giggles that make me smile even now just reminiscing about it. So now that we are older, we still find this a fun thing to do. In fact, I don’t think we are unique in this regard, so I am sure you’re thinking, ‘sure, we do that’.
Sometimes just hanging out, comes in handy too. Recently when I met up with two friends one of whom was going through chemotherapy, we found it convenient to sit in a little church cafe with a muffin and hot drink each while we played a few rounds of Four Pics One Word on my Ipad. The time was very well spent and was less stressful for one who felt she would have been too ‘wilted’ to deal with what we had originally planned for our meetup.
One of my friends says her mom found it quite therapeutic to do a round of bingo when she meets up with her friends and they gladly accommodate her. I haven’t played bingo since I was a child so this is definitely one to check out. As long as the right friends are with you, it should be a fun meet up that you shouldn’t rule out.
Skype
My friend Dahlia and I taught in another country over 12 years ago and used to maintain our friendship by ringing each other up a few times a year (at least twice) to do some catching up. Well, with the influx of technology as we know it now, we catch up often, several times a week via Skype and Whatsapp or even Facetime. It was such fun when years ago we discovered that we could actually see each other while we talked! Guess what? I gave her a tour of my home, showed her what I was cooking, and one time I even showed her my classroom which was a massive upgrade on the ones we used to work in back home! So go make use of the technology. After all, you only need an internet connection, and unless you’re still stuck in the ancient days, you should have access to this.
Update: See my meetup with Dahlia here.
Oh no! Museum
I don’t know about you but I don’t really appreciate fine art! Did I shock you with that? You know what I mean, don’t you? I honestly find it boring to walk through an Art gallery. So once when my friends invited me to a meetup and told me that their idea is for us to go to an art gallery, I swear they could see my eyes rolling in disbelief!
But guess what? Sometimes you’ve just got to make compromises! So what did I do? I went with them and did what I always to amuse myself and make time appear to go faster. It worked, my two friends were in their element, and I was in mine. We were together, and that’s important. And then there was the picnic lunch to look forward to.
Plan a picnic
If I’m meeting up with friends on a lovely day we sometimes go out for a meal together. Mind you, the meal is sometimes just a picnic that we each contribute to. There is always enough to eat, say, see and do. And that is enough for a wonderful afternoon spent with friends.
Plan a sleepover
My friends know I’m famous (or infamous) for this one. If you have some time off work, you can plan a sleepover. Fun, cheap and easy, all you need really are extra blankets and pillows (or your friends can bring theirs), snacks, and some matchsticks to keep your eyes open when your friends are still chatting way into the night! Make sure you get someone to take care of little ones if you have them though. You’re going to be too cranky to deal with them the next day or they’re too cranky because they stayed up too late with you. A good idea is to take random pics which you can send via Whatsapp to your friends later on.
Have a cook-off
This is by far one of my favourite ideas with friends. It does need some planning and will depend on each person’s availability. Here’s how it works: let’s say you have a circle of four or five friends who live reasonably close to each other. Arrange some dates and times for each person to have a visit from the others. The host has to make a meal for the guests who may or may not watch while it is being prepared. To make it even more fun, one friend could suggest the menu that the next host should prepare! Can you see yourself doing that? That’s one of the ways I learn to make foods from different cuisines. It also gets me used to using all types of unfamiliar herbs, spices, and other ingredients.
Go to Church
I like visiting other churches and seeing what’s different to my own. One summer, I set myself a challenge to visit a different church each weekend. It was an interesting eye-opener! As friends we got to experience worship in different styles; loud and exuberant or mellow and sedentary. Not only that, we widened our circle of friends and now see each other with new ‘eyes’. When was the last time you visited a church? If you chose to do my challenge, you only need a set of half decent clothes. Everything else is prepared for you to have a lovely experience. Putting money in the collection plate or bag at church is entirely optional by the way. See it as a tip.
My all-time favourite
Meeting up with friends and doing some time of activity together is my favourite. Mark you, it will need some planning so that we have the resources to do what we plan. In my case, my favourite thing to do as an activity is some type of craft or other. Be it card making, button craft, bottle craft or decoupage, mosaic work, sewing or just abstract painting using cheap acrylic paints and canvas. We even used to do a collaborative piece where we all work together on one canvas, putting our own spin on things. The lucky recipient would be the one who puts forward (in a fun way of course), the best argument for keeping it. Oh, what fun we had on those sessions.
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Virtual Orchards says
Hey Joleisa…
Very well written article:)
I too like meeting friends. With your help, I am all set to plan out something.
Thank you:)
Tola says
Love the ideas, and you are right the simple things truly do go the long haul than over the top, over planned events. This can apply to other relationships too
Carla Crudup says
It’s refreshing to read an article about friendships and ways to doing things that can be so endearing. Nice article!
Ann-maree says
Great blog
Claire says
The folder we get, there seems to be more emphasis on spending money to have a great time or create experiences. However, the small things in life such as hanging out or just visiting a museum are often overlooked. Thank you for sharing this post.
Ashlee says
I absolutely love your post, and your blog seems quite brilliant! I have a few close friends that I would love to stay in contact with, and this gave me some nice ideas. I must admit, crafting is one of my personal favorites as well. It’s cheap, fun to do, and allows you to be as creative as you want. It is kind of like writing, you can choose whatever path you wish for your written piece or craft project. So brilliant idea! Museums are also wonderful, and really bring a group of friends together. Every single idea you presented was perfect, I had a great time reading it. Thank you so much for sharing!
Joleisa says
Brilliant Ashlee! We are on the same radar! I do hope you make time for your friends, meet up, have a good time, and spend little or no money doing it. Thanks for your lovely comment too.
Jordan says
Seriously great ideas. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Chandra Shekhar says
Enjoyed this, a wonderful read. It’s full of wonderful ideas, I’m going to apply this on myself. Thanks for sharing.
silvia says
I totally love this, especially the scalp massage idea- never thought of doing this with my friends before! My favorite low-cost thing to do with my girlfriends is an at home high-tea- mini sandwiches, baking a pie and unlimited coffee & tea. Great afternoons!
Tia says
Hi Joleisa, i’m so Happy that these things still exist. I really love what you guys are doing, and it opens up our eyes to know the different ways to enjoy yourselfwith friends. You can’t be to busy to relax with friends and have fun. I really love those ideas and will definately try some of them. Thanks Joleisa.
Patricia says
Good ideas. Yes, I do need some low cost ideas for meetups with my girlfriends. And visiting other churches may not be a bad idea, as long as my friend is willing to go.
Daima Hussain says
A cook-off sounds so fun!
Boma says
So many great ideas here, I should try some! Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you.
Cate says
I love this post! I’m a total picnic girl and nothing makes me happier than quality time with girlfriends!
Dee at My Dee Dees Diary says
I love the idea of going to church as a way to meet up. That is where I normally meet my girlfriends too
Sara says
Thanka for sharing your ideas. We often just hangout. But an escape room is also a fun get together when you can swing it! And a board game night is always a blast. Looking forward to the next one. 🙂
Sam P says
Thanks for the great ideas for friendships. It’s great that they don’t cost any money. Friendship is about mutual understanding and common interests. I like to play card games with my girlfriends for example. Often I play games and PayPal helps me to withdraw money safely. Most of all I like to take walks in the park with my girlfriends. You can have a great time in the fresh air and discuss all the news! Thanks for the article!