We sometimes think that we have had our fair share of love, romance, and even serious friendships. But life is just for living. It’s too short and you definitely don’t want to live with regrets that you didn’t enjoy your life some more.
So I’m dipping my feet in, and taking a leaf from the book of some people over 40 who think this is the perfect age to find a serious love interest. According to this article in the Telegraph, official figures in England and Wales revealed that, between 2007 and 2017, marriage rates had increased more among over-65s than any other age group.
What’s there to lose? Set out below, I’ll share my considered opinion with you on what I’m doing to make sure that while I’m getting back on the dating scene in my 50’s, I have every intention of having a blast and at least making some good friends as I go. You never know, sometimes it’s best to just remain friends.
Have your wits about you when you are getting back on the dating scene
I’m sure one of the considerations is how to actually meet new people. Most people would shout out that online dating is the way to go, especially in the current situation we all find ourselves.
I feel that meeting others online is safe as long as we have our wits about us and not get the wool pulled over our eyes.
It is thought that the older we get, the wiser we should get. But what do you do when you feel you are falling madly in love with someone? Take a step back and chat to a confidant about things.
Can online dating bring sorrows? Sure! I am not naive as I’ve been approached so many times on Instagram DM by individuals with different profiles but who feed me with the exact same proposition. One word jumps to mind. SCAM!
If I were jittery and ‘blind’ and jump to the beat of all these drums and become nothing more than a silly cougar to one or more scammers sitting in their internet cafe waiting for my money transfer digits.
So stay safe and think sensibly.
Set realistic expectations
I am setting myself some realistic expectations. Why do I want to date again? I miss connecting with one special other. And I really want to avoid loneliness as I get older.
According to Campaign to end Loneliness, there are many health benefits to avoiding loneliness. One is that you actually live longer. Who doesn’t want that?
Reminiscing on the past
When I was younger, I had fun meeting new individuals whether at school, work, church or shopping, etc. Those days were fun and I could see whether or not there was a connection almost immediately.
I loved looking into those eyes, hearing their voices, reading their body language, and using all of this to determine how much of a connection there was
As there isn’t much of that going on any more, I’ve resorted to older dating sites uk where I’ve created my profile. This way I can still connect with eyes, voices, and body language. There’s not much that’s missing really, especially as I am just beginning to meet people. It allows me to do all of this from a safe space.
It allows me to ‘strip it all back’, and get to the simple talk about our dating experiences and why we want to date again.
Treat others the way you’d want to be treated
I have to keep in the back of my mind that I want to meet good friends, share a laugh, exchange stories, and build pleasant, lasting memories that will take me into old age.
I am assuming that others are on the dating scene for the exact same things, so I must remember to treat them kindly, with respect, and not to do anything I wouldn’t like for myself.
Have a blast
So take my lead, do your good deed, get ‘out there, and do have a blast. I hope to keep you posted on the blog and on my youtube channel on how things are progressing. Do let me know too in the comments about how you are getting on.
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