I love the Valentines period and I am always curious to know how others celebrate it. So this year again, I am having some chats with some of the UK money bloggers about their take on Valentines and the associated spending. Today, I am chatting with Charlotte Burns of Lottyearns
The hope is to not only pry into the lives of money bloggers (wink wink) but also to inspire you with some of their wisdom regarding sticking to your budget around valentines time.
The following is Charlotte’s take on the matter up for discussion.
Related articles: Love and money for valentines
Look, I know it’s easy to be cynical and say Valentine’s Day is fabricated for card companies to make a load of money (and it is), but typically, we’re not good at telling each other how much we love each other. And if it takes a day to nudge us (and yes – we should be doing it all the time, but life isn’t that simple for everyone), I think we should get involved – including the kids.
Do I think we should be spending hundreds of pounds on roses and chocolates? No. Do I think if you can afford it, you should make a little gift, or buy a card – yes. If your partner/family member would value that act of love, then why not?
It gets personal, and we get a sneak peek
My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 years, so long gone are the days we’d spend a load of money and do something special. I’d be horrified if he spent a fortune on a present, but I always appreciate a bunch of flowers. Not expensive red roses by the way, but a bunch of daffodils would make me happy.
On the matter of setting a spending limit, Charlotte agrees with me. It so depends on the couple, she says. If you’ve only been in your relationship a few years, then maybe a spending limit is a good idea so you can get to grips with each other’s expectations. There’s no quicker way to ruin a day about love than not getting enough spent on you or overspending (the amount all depends).
I don’t set a limit with my partner though. My money is mine, and his is his. I don’t bother buying him anything, but will probably splash out on steak for him in the supermarket, and he knows me well enough that if I think he has spent too much, I’ll be mad. It’s a fine line!
(Poor fellow! lol)
Anyone can be rubbish at buying gifts if they don’t put time and effort into it, says Charlotte.
I personally think it is a matter of being thoughtful about making your significant other feel special.
Now the Fun Bit about love and money for Valentines
Charlotte has decided to share about the most rubbish valentines gift that she ever got, and also what she really wishes she would get for valentines this year.
Joleisa: Tell us about the most rubbish valentine gift you ever got
Charlotte: It’s not a gift, but I was chuffed about a Valentine’s Day card I got once. I had no clue who it was from. Then a few years later I realised it was from my mother. MY MOTHER. The shame!
Ok, so in some ideal world, I’d love an Alexa Mulberry bag. But I also don’t want it at the same time because I’d rather our money go to something else like a house extension.
Surely, Charlotte is a lady who loves to be loved but who is also conscious of the finances and is willing to delay gratification for a later date.
Thanks so much to Charlotte whose blog is the place to check out for top deals and steals of the day. We hope you enjoyed checking out her views here too.
Also, check out what Lady Janey has to say about love and money for valentines.