Many people, even though they do not always show it on the outside, wrestle with feeling confident in themselves. Insecurities are something we all have, and while there is no shame in having them, eventually they will wear you down. This will have an effect on the way that you feel about yourself. There are ways you can boost your self-confidence.
When your self-esteem and self-perception are poor, it can affect almost every part of your life, and it is at this point that you should think about making changes to give your inner confidence a great big boost.
Everyone has different insecurities and approaches them differently, but one thing we can all do to live a happier, more optimistic life is to confront these problems head-on and embark on a path to greater self-confidence. The older I get, the more I tell myself to deal with issues when they come up so I don’t allow them to fester and eat me out.
Here, we look at some tips to help give you get back on track with your self-esteem.
Stop comparing yourself to others
This is tough because we are all guilty of it at times, but once you realise that it is not helping you, you can learn to break the habit.
First of all, remember if you are comparing your strengths to their weaknesses, you are always going to come off worse. It is a flawed comparison to make from the very beginning. Secondly, life is like a ladder. There are almost always going to people that have done something better or are more successful, but there’s always going to people below you on the ladder too.
When you start comparing yourself to someone – maybe they are further along in their money-saving journey than you – recognise that this is a positive quality of theirs and not a reflection on you in any way.
Step out of your comfort zone
Many of us stay in our comfort zone our whole life, believing that we are not good enough to step out of it, or lack the confidence to even try. The silly thing is that usually, stepping out of your comfort zone is one of the best things you can do to give your confidence a much-needed boost. Get that dramatic hair cut, colour your hair, wear bright clothes, get a set of clear aligners – whatever it takes to make you feel the best version of yourself. It might be a little nerve-wracking, to begin with, but when people start telling you how awesome your hair is/your teeth are/how good you are at speaking that new language, you will have a well-deserved shot of confidence.
Know your worth
Treat yourself like you would a friend who is making strides toward self-assurance. It’s important to appreciate yourself in order to feel positive, and rewarding yourself with a treat, whether it’s something delicious after dinner or a new item of clothing after a particularly long day will help you learn to value yourself and, as a result, improve your confidence.
Please know that you are valid, valuable and that there are people relying on you. If you are a stay-at-home mom, even more so.
Even the most apparently self-confident of people will sometimes have moments of doubt, but if you can put the above tips into practice, those moments will be fleeting. Good luck!